[common] Switch to boost::unordered_flat containers (#4326)

Replaces all instances of ankerl's unordered map/set with boost's
`unordered_flat_*` classes. This uses std::hash since boost::hash is
actually a lot slower.

Also adds an abstraction layer in `Common` so future changes are quicker
and easier.

Other implementation details:
- ankerl provided hash specializations for tuple and pair, so those were
  ported here
- std::erase_if doesn't work on boost, so just used the ADL'd erase_if

This should be about equal or superior performance as unordered_dense for everything except iteration.

Signed-off-by: crueter <[email protected]>

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Reviewed-on: https://git.eden-emu.dev/eden-emu/eden/pulls/4326
Reviewed-by: Lizzie and Samuel <[email protected]>
Reviewed-by: MaranBr <[email protected]>

CMakeLists.txt

@@ -540,7 +540,6 @@ add_subdirectory(externals)
 # pass targets from externals
 # TODO(crueter): CPMUtil Propagate func?
 find_package(enet)
-find_package(unordered_dense REQUIRED)
 
 if (ARCHITECTURE_x86 OR ARCHITECTURE_x86_64)
     find_package(xbyak)